|Damn these sappy films.
||[Sep. 10th, 2005|01:37 pm]
Just a girl
So, this post may offend some people, annoy some people, piss of some people, but guess what? It is my journal and my damn opinion so skip it if you want. I ain’t hear to spare feelings I am here to say what I think. On with my post. You see when I was in high school I was in a religion class that a lot about talking feelings and all that stuff.. Somehow some girls were talking in class and they came across the topic of that Tom Cruise film. My ears perked up because hey I am Tom Cruise fan. Alas, they hit the topic of Jerry McGuire one where Jerry says to Renee Z. character “You complete me.”|
Now, there are people that honestly believe they are incomplete until they find the “one” whomever the one may be. I remember my religion teacher [who is qualified has her Masters and all that jazzz in the subject] saying that was the most horrible line. She explained that were are individuals and that God made us complete and if you felt incomplete [which she felt could happen] the only person whole could complete you was your faith in God.
Once I heard that explanation I understood something. Me, as a person I am not incomplete. I know who I am and do not feel the need to be completed by anyone. You can find love and when you do and you think he is the “one” it is my opinion that person can only make you better. You have your own soul and you are your person as Allie and I discussed today. You aren’t half as good when the person isn’t with you.
If the person falls in love with you it was because you weren’t half completed it was because they saw this individual they really enjoyed for whatever reason. Also, that brings whole other issue that there are soul mates in this world and sometimes there are people who may be “destiny” to be with one another and aren’t. So, does this “lost” soul of yours yearn forever and be completely miserable and always feels an empty spot within them?
Dear god, I hope not. Whatever religion you may be or not be the whole notion is that you are suppose to be happy so you moping around for your half doesn’t seem all that logical to me.
I am firm believer in love, but I am also a firm believer that you need to love yourself before you can go love someone and claim that they complete you. Go find yourself and then find someone who makes you happy and makes you want to be a better person. Stop trying to find completion in someone.
I will finish this when a poem that I heard when I was in my 10th grade religion class and I always appreciated it. [I took 10 years worth of religion classes. The Hebrew Scriptures and the New testament classes one was the worse though…]
“Nothing is more practical than finding God, that is, than falling in love in a quite absolute, final way. what, you are in love with, what seizes your imagination, will affect everything. it will decide what will get you out of bed in the morning, what you will do with your evenings, how you will spend your weekends, what you read, who you know, what breaks your heart, what amazes you with joy and gratitude. fall in love, stay in love and it will decide everything” Pedro Arrupe
[Crossed posted at GJ journal]